Jitendra Jain

‘I feel the easiest way to feel connected to god is music’ — Jitendra Jain

What a good music can do is wonder to one person.

From past few days I have been listening to a song after recommended by my friend Pintu.

Tum Ek Gorakh Dhandha ho – By Legend Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan.

The song is of 18 mins Sufi Qawalli. I have heard it over and over and it has grown over me.

First time i listened to it, it was like what is this song. After that a meaning emerged and then second and third and i felt so connected to unknown.

The power of the singer, the meaning of words, the way singer talks directly to the almighty, the way he connects, compares.  I am not a hard core believer of God but this song makes you belive in it. Amazing.

I  think music is way to god because it helps you in forgetting yourself. You don’t remember anything else, your mind syncs with body which syncs with your heart beat and this amazing moment lets you forget everything.

You are in trance. the moment you come back. Its a superb feeling.

Similarly I have hearing song  ‘ Jism Damakta’- By Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan.  Man…

Look at the words, the voice, the throw, i bet if you love someone listen to this, feel it. Your love will be pure. You would feel it.

The words and voice do the trick.

Another trance, another coming back, another round of supreme happiness.

I think next time you want  to get out of tensions you have, want to forget everything for few mins, Just plugin your music player. Close all computer windows, dont sit in front of tv.  Close your eyes. Just focus on world.

You will find your way to extreme happiness. Amen.

A thought in my mind.

To meet all my friends again.

1. college friends

2. School friends.

3. Other dear friends.

Take a flight,  meet and come back.

I m ready to meet all friends.

Just tell me to come and give me a days time. I will be there with  you.

Any one intrested?

I want to file a complain against myself  for negligence.

I was found digging for water when my house was on fire.

I was found mending fences when my paddy was eaten away.

Quick fixes never work too well in longer term.

If you want to do something today. do it today. dont procrastinate. I am expert in it. Will do tommrow.

Well i thought tomorrow will never come. But sooner or later it comes.

Remorse, pity, anger over stupidty.

The price we pay is huge.

The price for lifetime.  We think i wish i had done that. if  i had done that may be that would have happened.

Dont ever procrastinate. Turn that tv off.  Just do it today. Dont sleep till its done. If you sleep over it  I can promise you, you are going to be awake all your life repenting.

Just do it man.

How important is recognization?

How important is people praising you?

How important is for you to be discussion topic at others dining table?

How important is for you to be  a BRAND.

I always asked myself this question and I am always confused to take steps to do that or not

What is brand?

A perception of mind.

How you are percived by people ?

What people think about you?

When you pass by them they say ‘ Jitu bhai aa gaye’ or they say ‘jitu aa gaya’ or they say ‘ Aa gaya wapas sir khane’.?

How many people talk to you when you go to your own home town

Do they smile when they talk to you?

Do they want to hear your stories?

When you go to your relatives, are you offered dry fruits or simple snacks. (Yes this happens).

There are many aspects of being a brand.

1. Money : How much money do you possess will make you a brand, Have 100 crores  in you pocket and you will be instant brand. It can be hard earned, found, stolen, it has not means

2. Presentation :  How do you present yourself, are your clothes looking good, nails clipped, well dressed. taking style.

3.  Education :  This is new emerging trend in marwadis, more educated you are more brandable you are. Study well, 15th,17th. In my village they say ‘ bapu, ab kaun si class mein ho’. They understand only numbers.

4. Success :  If you have this and nothing else  it will do. How successful you are irrespective of education, money, presentation. Measured in various ways.

5. Achievements :  what you have done so far. Have you fought with toughest man in town, argued with best politician,  proved yourself in one or other field will also make you a brand.

6. Donation :  its how much you donate matters. If you can bid for Aarti in temple and do the first aarti  will make u a brand.

what are your views.

1. Waiting at airport.
2. Waiting for someone to vacate the bathroom
3. Waiting for food to be served
4. Waiting for someone to come to watch a movie.
5. Waiting for pizza guy to come
6. Waiting for a phone call
7. Watching old boring movies.
8. Cleaning house

Add yours..

Sometimes when i see around me. I find lots of things missing.

1.Crows : Where have you all gone. I remember 20 years back when my mom used to make papads and dry them on rooftop, i was her chaukidaar to keep crows away. I used to get to eat the papad aata which tastes damn good. Perhaps my mom knew  it was better giving me papad ka aata rather then to crows. After all crows make holes in papads.

2. Frogs :  Trrr. Trrrrrr. Rainy season and they were there. we had stories about them. Once my friend said, its so powerful that even if you grind it in mixer and put it in water, in three days there will be a frog in there, just like phoenix bird which rises from its ash. They were everywhere. we use to run after them, play. have not seen one since age.

3. Vultures :  this is one known fact that they have vanished. Parsis are crying that there is no one to eat the dead bodies, dead animals are crying. I heard that they had some kidney problem due to excessive use of fertilizers in fields which are eaten by cattle and then passed on to vultures. The food chain. Remember what you studied in class VII. It was for real man.

4. Marwadi Girls :  The latest rumor i have heard that there is one girl for every two boys in today’s date. Oh god. Where have all the girls gone. The reasons being given are they get married to other caste, all utter crap. The reason is the girls were never born. They were conceived but never saw the day light. They were murdered. Nature cannot do this only we do. Nature has ratio of 1:1 where as we skew it. Why?

I know people who have got their to be born daughter murdered. A rich man who had four grand daughters was always unhappy beacuse he didn’t have a heir to look after. All his life he was worried about his seven generations and in end he was worried he should have a Grandson. First son had two daughters. Second son too had two daughters. Then they went to sex test when seconds sons daughter was pregnant and they found out it was a girl. While writing this I have tears in my mind to say that she was murdered. Then they tried again they had a boy. A grand party was given.

Or one of my college seniors who is not happy because who has two girls. what boss (we call them that), why unhappy, look at these two girls they are angels,  these will be there till you die, more dedicated, more love then your son will give you.

Or my subordinate when his wife gave birth to a girl child he was so devastated as if someone had died. Till date i try to convince him that he is lucky. He is worried about her marriage, i think he will understand soon.

Or other guy whose brother has one son and he has two daughters, why worry man.

I think there are countless examples we know, Please don’t kill the girls.

I would also thank god for giving me such a wonderful mother who treats my sister just like me and we give her equal rights.  She understands hope one day all marwadis and eventually everyone will do.

‘Forgiveness Is The Fragrance Of The Flower When Crushed’

So easy to say but so hard to do.

As you all know i was deceived by one of my college juniors who took away  my Rs70000 few years back.  I saw him featured in Young Turks today.

What i feel is bad. the memories of being cheated by a junior who was like a brother are not good. Its very hard to let it go.

Why? beacuse i am human.

The normal guy who would take it till his death or just let it go.

I want to let it go. Forgive him for what he did

Give him it as a present  for his business where he grossed  a revenue of rs 1crore.

I felt good somewhere that my money was utilized in proper way by him,

Phew……Let it go.. man

Rs 70k will come back 100 times as good things.

As rightly said

To err is human; to forgive is divine.

by Alexander Pope.

How things change when we grow and remain unmarried.

Specially Moms how they think a lot about their sons marriage.

My mom is no different. She just wants me to be married Asap. She is even upset with me for same reasons.

Well she is changing what kind of girl she wants for me. She just wants a bahu. Seeing me getting married would keep her happy.

As we know she is always against dowry and first woman in my family to say so. She is first women not to accept marriage gifts. Yes we have few relatives who see to what gifts they are being given and its point of disucssion for few days.

I have become a headache for her now.

She is such a a sweetheart, always thinks about me.

I present you age wise statements being made by people, relatives, my postman, telephone man, wireman, sweeper, chai wala, dads old friends, mama, mami, another mami, office people, writers, mechanics, people whom i meet during travel, cousin sisters, mukesh and others.and advice given by people to me. But i have my own ideas…

Few are real and few are fictional

• Age – 24 – Marry a nice good looking,unmarried homely girl from same community within same area.
• Age -25 – Marry a nice looking girl – same state would do
• Age -26 – Marry a girl who is homely and good looking
• Age -27 – Marry a girl from same community quick
• Age -28 – Good Looking not required
• Age -29 – Even working girls would do
• Age -30 – Marry a Jain girl no dowry needed
• Age -31 – Marry a Jain girl from anywhere in India
• Age -32 – Marry a girl from any caste
• Age -33 – Marry any girl, even a widow or divorcee would do
• Age -34 – Just Marry Anyone
• Age -35 – We are willing to pay if you get married.
• Age -40 – Why dont you go to canada, i think gay marriage is legal there

When we were kids we were taught that

Count Money.. Anywhere you see money just count it inside your mind.

The counting 1.2.3…..57….67….72……79…….97.98.99.100 Should be perfect and should go in one flow. No need to count twice.

But Why?

So many times while counting a bundle of notes i feel in between (after 50 notes…) that i am loosing count, i often feel that i have counted one note extra or left one behind. Since being marwadi and being hisab ka pakka I might have to count it again.

Lot of people face same problem, reason being the notes are not stappled any more and when you start counting the bundle opens up and it spreads out.. so it becomes difficult, only experts can do it.

So the trick we were taught is very useful to me despite my dilemma of counting notes and every time i count them right.

Here goes the trick..

Rule : Count Money in your mind when its being counted in front of you. (even if it is not yours)

Assume there are three marwadis in room andyou are counting money and you feel that you have counted a note extra or left it.. Count it.. 95.96.97y.98.99.100. Say 100 aloud.

Just raise your hand, watch your marwadi fellows, they are rule followers when you will say 100 and see them in eyes, they will nod their heads if its 100. Since they have followed rule, counted it despite even they have to do nothing with it.

Mutual Cooperation. You were saved from agony of counting it again. 3 guys confirming the same thing.

This really helps.

Hence when some other marwadi is counting notes, you better not disturb me.. coz i will be too counting it in my mind.. 1.2.3.4…65…77….93…98…99..100 (sau)

I have been thinking about it since long time to do some writing on funny things that i see about marwadis (as we are known in mumbai)(Specifically my area). Though I from marwar side, but in mumbai the right term is marwadi..

A lot of good things that i like and a few bad things that i dont like.

Marwadinama.. is what i will call it..

These will be my own experiences and yours might differ.. I dont intend to hurt anyone..